Holding yourself back

I regularly meet people with a clear narrative on their unhappiness in their organisation. It isn’t that I attract it, at least I don’t think so, I just consider it a facet of the job; when you spend your life working with people you can expect to hear the good, the bad and the indifferent.

Whilst the situation, the participants and the timing of the narratives are different, the organisations, the villain, the circumstance all change, there is one common factor that links them all together. The victim is the narrator.

Life has a habit of throwing us curve balls, things don’t always proceed in the way that we would like, or indeed envisage. Sometimes circumstances run amok with the best laid plans that we have made. Our ability to move on from this determines both our success and our happiness.

I’m no life coach, so I’ll stick to the events that take place at work and offer you three options if you’re unhappy with something that has happened in the past that still holds you back;

  • leave and go somewhere else,
  • find a way to accept it,
  • remain unhappy at your own cost.

It really is that simple.

Ultimately, you are singularly responsible for your happiness and whilst you can’t control the things that happen, the promotion missed, the pay rise promised or the reporting change, you can control your response to it and your actions thereafter. Life is full of ups and downs, dwelling on the low points has no material impact on anyone else, it just holds you back.

Which, by all accounts, is a pretty dumb thing to do.

 

 

 

HR can make the world a better place

Imagine if you could make the world a better place.

Imagine if you could go to work and contribute to a more harmonious, more secure, safer and happier world. Would that appeal?

How about if you could do that by working in HR?

We spend so much of our lives in work, our experience of the world is so often dictated by our experiences in the workplace. If we’re happy, if we’re sad, if we feel safe and secure, or manipulated, used or ill at ease.

Our ability to be able to provide for ourselves, the safety net that provides us with support when we are at our lowest points, ill, caring for dependents, dealing with the changes that life brings upon us. These things make all the difference.

A positive work experience becomes a positive social experience and a positive life experience. And this positive effect spreads further than the inside of our enterprises, it spreads in to society as a whole.

But what’s more, when we think of the role that works play in society then we can play an even bigger part in the world.

Fairness in society is driven significantly by fairness at work. A sense of purpose, a sense of belonging, a sense of participation and self-determination. All of these things drive the psychological wellbeing of employees and of society as a whole.

Fragmented societies, societies that are based on injustice, control, fear and division for the purposes of power are fertile ground for extreme reactions, for insurrection and disorder. They are repeatedly the start of a chain reaction that challenges the balance of the world.

Is it too much to suggest that HR can make the world a better place? I don’t think so. Work forms such an intrinsic part of the fabric of society, it holds such an important place in the everyday lives of us all. Why would it not have a greater effect on the equilibrium of the world as a whole?

Work shapes our lives and if we can make work better we can make lives better. But it also
shapes society and, yes, if we can make work better we can, and should, make the world a happier, stable more secure place.